From Tinder to Ok Cupid to Grindr, I even formed a sort of obsession at some point.
You have to admit it's fun; the fact that you are, for once, allowed to judge people by their looks or your shallow first impressions is exhilarating.
Secretly, you are hoping to discover the same about them.
Like the moon reflecting the sun's rays, spouses can reflect the truth about their mates, but they don't them valuable!
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Once upon a time, people actually met in real life to date.
Think of conversation as a tennis match in which the players lob the ball back and forth. They ask personal or sensitive questions that put the other person on the defensive. If feeling inhibited is a problem for some people, others go to the opposite extreme: they use a date as an opportunity to purge and vent.
Should the relationship evolve, there will be plenty of time to get into weighty topics. When a person reveals too much too soon, it can give a false sense of intimacy.